I know, I know who hasn't said things before thinking 1st? I know that I have, in fact I bet I did today several times. I tell myself a lot that people mean well and do think that is true. I think it's a relatively small % of people that seek to harm and hurt others. I remember when when I didn't have kids yet and id be out and see a mother with a wild out of control kid and think "If that was my kid that wouldn't happen!", "I could control them!" Well guess what it does happen to me and I can't always control them!
Tonight we were at T-Ball my 2 four year olds play. We are there for fun nobody thinks the next Babe Ruth is there hiding out on our team. However, you still want your kids to listen to their coach and respect their team members especially when their father is the head coach. There are only 6 kids on the team and we own 2 of them, the 2 that never seem to listen to the coach their father. I should also point out that most of the kids need corrected and reminded to do things the entire game. Tonight the baby was also very cranky and was having one of her loud screaming bouts. So that pretty much sets the stage. I was holding the baby because she was very agitated in her stroller and wasn't any happier in my arms so still screaming. One of my other ones was out in the field just walking around throwing dirt when I hear this to my right. "She can't control any of her kids look at the 3 of them, it will just get worse." I know that God himself subdued me just then that is the only way I can explain it. So instead of harming them in some way I just cried quietly behind my adorable thankfully over sized sunglasses.
What that person doesn't know is that one of my kids has Cerebral Palsy, one is Autistic and has PTSD from an awful home life before becoming my child , that 2 of my kids were neglected so badly that they weren't fed consistently and when they 1st came to live with us they would eat till they puked because they didn't know if they would be fed again They also don't know that all 3 of my beautiful babies were born addicted to major drugs and went through awful withdrawal. This by no means gives them license to misbehave. I don't shy away from disciplining them for some I have to be creative in how I I do it but it is done. My kids are miracles and God has moved in their lives in amazing ways and he will continue to. Everything that was taken from them or has been skewed in some way will be healed and restored I know this is true.
So to the person who said those things tonight, "You are correct, I cannot always control my kids, can you? Yes, look at my kids please aren't they adorable? Aren't they amazing? One day they may be your doctor or your boss or your President. There may be days that they behave worse than this day at a 4 year old T Ball game, but I can tell you this ,my kids know what worse is and they know their lives will never be like that again. They know that we love them even during their worst moments"
